"Talking is the first step to your healing"


In March 2018

I received the unexpected news that I had prostate cancer. The diagnosis came as a complete shock to me, as I had no prior knowledge or symptoms of the disease. It was a conversation with a friend who had also been diagnosed with prostate cancer that prompted me to undergo a PSA blood test.

Learning that I had cancer was a devastating blow that completely upended my world. However, there was a silver lining: the cancer had been detected early, giving me a chance at a cure.

Following my surgery on April 6, 2018, a new set of challenges emerged. I grappled with the frustrating effects of erectile dysfunction and stress-induced urinary incontinence. These physical and emotional changes were particularly difficult for me to accept, given my previous reputation as a fit and healthy individual. At one point, I even contemplated ending my own life, but fortunately, my attempt was unsuccessful.

It was during this dark moment that I had a profound realization. If cancer couldn’t take my life, why was I trying to? This epiphany served as a turning point in my journey, motivating me to seek help and find new ways to cope with the challenges I faced.

Upon reaching out to my friends, I discovered that they too had experienced similar struggles and had attempted to take their own lives. This realization shed light on the fact that men face not only physical challenges but also significant psychological trauma when dealing with prostate cancer. It became evident that having a strong support system and a non-judgmental outlet for open conversation could be immensely beneficial.

After connecting with numerous men who had been through similar experiences, it became clear that there was a need for a support group that could fill the gaps left by medical professionals. It became apparent that cancer affects not only the body but also the mind, and both aspects require healing and attention.

Recognizing this unmet need, I made the decision to establish a support group specifically for men who had been diagnosed with or were recovering from prostate cancer. The aim was to create a safe space where individuals could come together, share their stories, and support one another on their respective journeys. I firmly believed that talking openly about their experiences was the first step towards healing.

In August 2022

I officially founded Cancer Don’t Let It Win C.I.C. (CDLIW). Since its inception, the organization has reached over 2,000 men who have been diagnosed with or are recovering from prostate cancer. Currently, we are on the verge of establishing monthly support groups on both local and national levels. Presently, we have support groups in Croydon, Lewisham, Brixton, and Vauxhall, with plans to expand further.

There must always be a compelling reason to receive an invitation to the prime minister’s residence.